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I’ve been a therapist for over three decades so I’ve seen relational and individual patterns and trends come an go. Today, I thought I’d talk about something that has become a hot topic. It literally is everywhere. If I go on to social media, I’m inundated with lists,...

When people come to see me for relationship counselling and I ask, “what is the biggest thing that requires work in your relationship?” Conflict resolution always is in the top 5 answers given, usually by both partners. My practice utilises several techniques for...

I originally wrote this post about Sandy Hook in America for another site. Recently in Australia we have had a tragedy surrounding a primary school in Devonport, Tasmania. Although I have changed up some details here, the principles of the post are intrinsically the...

One of the things we like to do as sex therapists is to help normalise and destigmatise sex, sexuality, and sexual diversity. Discussing desire is one of the topics that I cover to help build a solid foundation. Generally no two people have the same level of desire at...

Affairs/cheating/infidelity, whatever name you prefer, is an emotive topic because we see it as the ultimate betrayal. Society labels it as such. Some cultures, family, friends, print media, and online/social media weigh in heavily. No matter what, it certainly causes...

Empathy forms a significant part of my relationship counselling. It’s important for all counselling. I think we’ve all met people over the years who declare themselves as ’empathetic’ but then tend to “at least” others when they have pain or hurts in their life – “I’m...